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Plenty of books and articles advise us against relying on punishment, from spanking to forcible isolation ("time out").Occasionally someone will even ask us to rethink the practice of bribing children with stickers or food. But you'll have to look aw...

Plenty of books and articles advise us against rel...

5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private. 6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values. 7. Don't protect me from consequences. I need...

5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can ...

POSITIVE C'S Compassion (Rehmat) It is interesting to note that when it comes to Hadith or Quranic quotes dealing with human behavior, we never stop to think that our children and family members are also our fellow human beings and that these golden ...

POSITIVE C'S Compassion (Rehmat) It is interesting...

I often say that I spend more time and energy on my one boy than on my three girls. Other mothers of boys are quick to say the same. Forget that old poem about snips and snails and puppy dog tails, says Sharon O'Donnell, a mom of three boys and the a...

I often say that I spend more time and energy on m...

Yes, it is. A few kids seem naturally organized, but for the rest, organization is a skill learned over time. With help and some practice, kids can develop an effective approach to getting stuff done. And you're the perfect person to teach your child...

Yes, it is. A few kids seem naturally organized, b...

The health risks of tobacco are well known, yet the rates of smoking and the use of chewing tobacco continue to grow. Many people pick up these habits when they're young — in fact, 90% of all adult smokers started when they were kids. And each day, m...

The health risks of tobacco are well known, yet th...

F rown on evil " Astaghfirullah" G ive them love and understanding H ear their problems, be there for them. I gnore not their childish fears, tell them Allah is Always there. J oyfully accept their apologies, Allah is All Forgiving. K eep their confi...

F rown on evil " Astaghfirullah" G ive them love a...

Parents of young children (preschool age) should have few expectations in terms of behavior and acquisition of knowledge due to the cognitive limitations at this age. This does not mean that children should be allowed to run about and do as they plea...

Parents of young children (preschool age) should h...

Getting along has different meanings for different parents, but in general, parents want their child to enjoy the company of other children, be liked by them, be well-behaved in their presence (for example, share and cooperate with them), and resist ...

Getting along has different meanings for different...

In the tarbiyyah of children, you should remember that children often learn from example. The proper conduct an example of parents are crucial in the upbringing of children. Parents who expect their children to be disciplined and to work hard must th...

In the tarbiyyah of children, you should remember ...

You may not realize it, but you have a wealth of stories to share. You don't have to invent them on the spot. Personal stories, particularly from your childhood or from books you've read, are good starters. Preschoolers and toddlers enjoy stories abo...

You may not realize it, but you have a wealth of s...

12. And indeed We bestowed upon Lukman Al-Hikmah (wisdom and religious understanding, etc.) saying: "Give thanks to Allah," and whoever gives thanks, he gives thanks for (the good of) his own self. And whoever is unthankful, then verily, Allah is All...

12. And indeed We bestowed upon Lukman Al-Hikmah (...

"Mom, I am bored!" "Mom, what can I do?" "Can I play outside?" "Can I visit a friend?" These are questions almost every mother hears from her children during summer vacation when children have a lot of free time to spare. Some parents choose the easi...

"Mom, I am bored!" "Mom, what can I do?" "Can I pl...

Self-esteem is important because it is seen as a central factor in positive social and emotional adjustment. Children with high self-esteem are capable of making good decisions, are proud of their accomplishments, and are willing to take responsibili...

Self-esteem is important because it is seen as a c...

"Tell them I'm not here," we yell to our spouse or children as the telephone rings. Although we might no have noticed it, we have just set an example of lying for our children. When they see us lying, they may say to themselves that it's okay to lie....

"Tell them I'm not here," we yell to our spouse or...

Parents often have very high academic and career expectations for their children, which some children cannot live up to. Unfortunately, in some societies concern about disappointing one's parents is a tragedy the student cannot deal with, so he kills...

Parents often have very high academic and career e...

In discussions about how to help Muslim teenagers maintain the practice of Islam and stay involved in the Muslim community (ever notice how most stop coming to Islamic weekend school after they turn 12), strategies discussed amongst Muslims in the We...

In discussions about how to help Muslim teenagers ...

"Mommy! Daddy! Look at what I did!" Children, their faces beaming with joy, running to their parents to show them "something special" is an everyday occurrence and an extremely important one. The treasure they hold in their hands might be a picture t...

"Mommy! Daddy! Look at what I did!" Children, thei...

The following tips may help your children relax and be able to concentrate on the learning material instead of the pressure of the test. Make sure your children know what is expected of them before the exam.Children should keep up with the material, ...

The following tips may help your children relax an...

3- Listen to the child when he/she decide to talk about their birth families. Assign feelings when appropriate such as, "Sounds like you are disappointed" or "You must miss your mom" and "I bet you were scared". 4- Give the child a journal. Help him/...

3- Listen to the child when he/she decide to talk ...

Guiding children to behave in appropriate and acceptable ways is challenging for many adults. There are no quick, easy answers because every child is unique. Differing temperaments, personalities, needs, growth patterns, home environment, and family ...

Guiding children to behave in appropriate and acce...